When I was taught seventh and eighth graders (for 32 years!) I early on realized that those kids could be the most hurtful, cruel mean little *&@%* in the world...an age of insecurity..so much so that I developed a saying that described their attitudes..."Do unto others BEFORE they can do it to you"! And I do believe that is the middle schooler's unconscious words to live by!
I also early on came across a quote...“Nobody can hurt me without my permission." I had contributed this quote to Eleanor Roosevelt whom I highly admire, but recently I came across information quoting Mahatma Gandhi as saying that...thus I have concluded that Eleanor used the phrase, but that she was quoting Gandhi!