Sunday, February 16, 2014

I am back!!


  I just posted a draft that I had written on Christmas and somehow never got posted! It has been a very difficult two-three months but everything should get back to a somewhat normal routine...without my best friend.  I have always wondered when people would loose someone and say what a relief it was! But now I understand! It is no fun watching the one you love just melt before your eyes...Dick had a very rough, but not necessarily painful, last couple of months...and on February 12, 2014 at 12:15AM, he drew his last breath with me and our daughters at his side.  It was a very peaceful passing from this world into the next...I feel his presence with me every minute and I know he is at peace and watching over us!
     We were enrolled with a hospice group...Vitas...and they were wonderful.  If anyone reading this is in my similar situation, do not hesitate to contact one in your area.  And with their help and my wonderful daughters' and terrific friends' help and support, we were able to keep him at home until the end of this life. Such a comforting way to experience such a dreadful but inevitable  part of existing.
      We (our girls and I at Dick's request) had his remains cremated..we had no formal ceremony or service; no visitation for "viewing"....we will have a very private service with family and close friends at the National Cemetery here in Texas...he served in the Air Force so is eligible for a spot there! What he didn't know, but would approve of, is that we are going to make several trips around to some of his favorite spots and leave a little of him behind! It will be the "Dick Dodds Farewell Tour"..with t-shirts and all!!
     Our son-in-law had coined a phrase for us...Members of the "50/50 Club"... because we had celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary on December 29 and we, as of last spring, had traveled to all 50 states!!  We did car trips to all but the last one...Hawaii..we couldn't drive there!!
     So I am back...I have put my life on hold...I have not written on my blog for months...I have not attended any social or church functions for ages...I have not created anything in my studio...but now I am ready to reenter my old live albeit without I know he would want me to.


  1. i am so sorry for your loss Jay. i am also glad to see you back on your blog. i hope that you will find your creative spirit soon and that it brings you further healing from this terrible loss.


  2. I'm sorry too for your loss. And it's good to see you back in blog land. I pray your memories of all those years with your best friend will sustain you as you adjust to your loss. Hope to see back at guild very soon.

  3. I am sorry for your loss, and touched by your story. I hope each new day makes you smile more with your wonderful memories of your best friend. Creating again will be good for your spirit! Take care!

  4. I am so sorry for your loss. I will say a prayer of comfort and peace for you and your family.

  5. Hello Jay, thanks for a lovely post! You are an inspiration to me. And I love the bit about the farewell tour! Thinking often of you during this sad time in your life. Mary