Showing posts with label memory monday #104. Show all posts
Showing posts with label memory monday #104. Show all posts

Monday, September 18, 2017

Memory Monday

“Relationships don't always make sense. Especially from the outside” 
― Sarah DessenAlong for the Ride

     In my last blog I told of my mother's arrangements for a friend of hers' daughter to go with me to Reno.  Marian was a good friend of mine so it was a good plan.  I loaded up my Ford Fairlaine with all the belongings I would need to live out there; my clothes, my black and white tv, and Dagmar, my German Shepherd.  Marian was going on to California to visit some college friends of hers then fly back to Illinois by herself.

Map of the United States
     Off we took...1,637 miles by today's standards...27 plus hours! We decided to save money by driving straight through, stopping only for potty breaks and gas...and a bite to eat.  We would take turns driving and sleeping.  We crossed the highest part of the Rocky Mountains at night time so we had no idea of how high up we were! One time I was driving towards dawn and, as we came around a curve, there was a herd of cattle on the road being herded by real cowboys. Boy, did that set Dagmar off!  And we two sweet young things were having a blast being surrounded by cattle and cowboys!
     
Highway coming down from the Rockies
     As we came into  Nevada, we had to cross the Great Basin Desert.  There were gas signs all along the way for miles telling just how far to the next gas station, to be sure and fill up and check the radiator to see that there was plenty of water in it.  We started into the desert then decided we had better go back and fill up, etc. We had passed a car with a guy standing along the side; he was still there  on our return trip.   After we had been by him for the second time, we got to wondering if he had run out to gas.  There was very little traffic and we thought maybe we had better go back and check on him! After all, we had Dagmar with us!  As we pulled up, I rolled down my window, just a crack, to ask him if he needed anything.  He laughed and said "Just which way are you girls going?" as this would have been our fourth time past him!  He then explained that he was out of gas but his sons had hiked back to get gas and would be back any minute....and he offered to buy us breakfast if we wanted to go back to the nearest town when the boys got back.  We declined and went on our way.

The Great Basin Desert with towns few and far between...at least in 1963!
     We finally made it to Reno, but before we let Dick know we were there, we stopped at a gas station and cleaned up....washed our hair in the sink, did a little sponge bath, and put on some clean clothes!  We then called and met him at Shakey's.  Marian and I got a motel room for a couple of days, then she went on to California.


     In the days after Marian left, I needed to find cheaper accommodations and get a job.  Dick had a nine to five job at Stead AFB and a part time job at Shakey's Pizza so I was pretty much on my own to do these things.  I located a rooming house not far from downtown (the source for a few blogs!) and with my lovable huge Dagmar, I was ready to move in.  Dick was with me that day to help; when we got there, my room was upstairs.  The house was an old two story with a stairway that went up halfway then a short landing and a complete turn for the second set up.  It was kind of dark up there and Dagmar would not go up!!!!  I knew once she did it a couple of times, she would be ok so I had Dick carry her up there...remember she is a BIG German Shepherd!  And, as I knew, once she saw it was safe, she was OK.

A rooming house...not the one I lived in but very similar
   Now you have to realize....this is pre-cell phone days.  To make long distance phone calls was a big deal.  You didn't have unlimited minutes etc.  There was a pay phone in the rooming house for all to use.  Times were really a lot simpler and less stressful.  Maybe it was the ignorance of youth, but,  although I didn't have a job, I wasn't worried...I knew something would show up.  I was surrounded by strangers but that was ok, too.... a good opportunity to meet different people!

Monday, September 11, 2017

Memory Monday

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” 
― Friedrich Nietzsche


     Now we have wedding plans to make! I would have been perfectly happy getting married in a quiet family only ceremony as I know Dick would have, but my mom had other ideas!!  Nothing but the best for her daughters!  My sister had  been married a few years before, so now Mom had experience at being Mother of the Bride!   This was before the days of wedding planners!  Mom was the wedding planner!  First, we set the date with the priest.  Then we have to go dress shopping; there were no stores in my home town which carried wedding dresses so we had to go to Jacksonville, 35 miles east; or Quincy, 35 + miles west or the big city of St. Louis, MO, 70 miles south.

A similar Department Store where we shopped
      We found the perfect dress in Jacksonville at a  dress shop. (I can't remember the name but the picture above is a close facsimile)...and we found the bridesmaids dresses also.  I only wanted my sister for my Matron of Honor and a young friend for a junior bridesmaid.  For groomsmen, we had Dick's brother as Best Man, my brother for junior groomsman, and a couple of friends from college for ushers.  Most of my friends from high school were already married and either had moved away or working on families of their own.
     Because so many of my friends were gone, my mom's best friends decided to throw me a wedding shower.  They invited Dick's mom and little sister to come which they did.  Now remember these were people I had met only once when I was invited to dinner at their home while I was teaching in Kansas City.  Harold, my father in law to be, drove them over...about a three hour drive.  My dad was assigned to entertain Harold.  My dad said he would just take him up to one of the bars where they could sit and visit.  Well, that put a bit of a panic in me, because I was pretty sure the Dodds' life style was quite a bit different from my party hearty parents!  I said "Dad, I don't think he drinks!" And my dad's typical reply was " Well, by God, he'll drink with me! No good man would turn down a friendly drink!"
   
Lindsey's...still operating 50+ years later!
     And of course, Dad was right...Harold did have a drink with him; they got along just fine, both having a common interest in livestock and farming. My worries were unnecessary as usual!  
      It is now mid- August and although we are not getting married until December 29 (we had set that date so Dick could also be home for Christmas), I am planning on going back to Reno, to see if I can get a job teaching!  The optimism of youth!  I have a car; I have Dagmar, my faithful German Shepherd; I am 22 years old!  But my mom was very concerned about me making the drive by myself so in sharing her concerns with many of her friends over the frequent bridge games, she came up with a solution!  One of her friend's daughter who was also a friend of mine,  was home for the summer between semesters at college and she had friends in California. So the plan was for Marion to travel to Reno with me,  then take the bus on to San Francisco to visit with her friends.  And that trip will be the topic of my next blog!!!